NOT Spit Porn…SPITE Porn. Yes. I just read an article about it, and it’s blowing my cannabis-saturated mind. It’s a new trend in the world of custom femdom videos, and you’re not gonna believe how useful it is for some people who are trying to get past a failed romantic relationship.
I read about it in Rolling Stone magazine, of all places, and I found it interesting enough that I thought I’d blog about it, giving some detail on what it is and how it works. Plus, I’ll point any of you people who feel the urge to indulge in this odd, but apparently effective, form of pornographic breakup therapy in the right direction to find the best willing femdom goddesses who’ll produce it for you.
ATTENTION, PEOPLE: Apparently, some of our fellow humans recovering from a painful breakup are resorting to using femdom goddess models to produce “spite porn,” in which their exes are degraded and told off. Obviously, we need to give this topic a good ol’ anal examination.
The article actually gives some really fascinating examples of this new microniche, which I definitely want to get into in a minute. Before covering that, though, I should probably give a general overview of what we’re looking at here. See, when I initially heard the term “spite porn,” my first reaction was, this must be a variant of revenge porn.
If you didn’t know, that’s when a couple breaks up in real life and one member of it, who’s usually the guy, releases a bunch of “compromising” pictures and videos of his ex-girlfriend from the relationship, often with her name and maybe even other vital stats attached.
That’s definitely spiteful (and outlawed in some jurisdictions now), so I thought this might be something similar. But while it does have to do with love affairs that fizzled out, spite porn isn’t really like that. It’s more a kind of therapy.
Spite Porn as Breakup Therapy
In spite porn, people hire actual sex workers, like cam girls or OnlyFans models, to help them work out unresolved feelings they may have from a relationships that recently went bust.
When they come to the sex workers, these folks are usually angry and hurt, so the material they request tends to be hostile. Try to imagine the most belligerent, confrontational things you could pay a sex worker to do, and you might start getting the idea of what spite porn is all about.
The Rolling Stone article I mentioned tells us about Allie Knox, an online adult model who makes custom porn videos for clients. She’s used to taking her clothes off and getting down and dirty for guys, so it was a bit of a surprise when she was approached by a recently-divorced woman who wanted a piece of content for her ex-husband.
The resulting video starts off in a way that’s probably pretty familiar for Allie, showing her dressed sexy and rubbing all sorts of naughty parts as the moans proceed liberally. Nothing unusual so far.
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A few minutes in, though, Allie springs the trap. She reveals that she’s befriended the man’s ex-wife, who she admits paid for the video, and launches into an impressively vitriolic tirade against the man and all of his personal shortcomings.
Allie calls him a “stupid, careless, selfish son of a bitch,” but there’s a good bit of intimate information there too, supplied by the client in her generalized script. So the video also gets down to attacking this guy’s obsession with porn, his unbearable narcissism, and how self-absorbed he tends to be.
For her part, while she makes no secret of the fact that it was bizarre, Allie seems to have enjoyed the job. She wrote on twitter that: “A woman just ordered a custom video from me to send to her ex-husband and have me shame him for all the shit he did while they were together and I’ve never felt more needed in my entire life.”
Blasting your ex with a good shitload of truth can be quite therapeutic, it seems.
Another example from the article brings us Jessie Paige, also a sex worker, who uses the platform Niteflirt to have phone sex with her clients. Normally she’d be talking low and sexy to the guys who pay her, but this time the one who hired her had a different kind of dirty talk in mind.
You see, this dude was months out of breaking up with his girlfriend and was still having a hard time moving on, so he needed to wrap things up in a way his actual ex apparently wasn’t up for. He asked Jessie to roleplay a scene with him over the phone, in which she would play the part of his former girlfriend, and they’d step out of a party together to talk.
Except that the “talk” was basically just them screaming and shouting angrily at each other. Yes, it was a two-way exchange.
Jessie really got into character, and in order to make her performance more genuine, she took real sources of rage and hurt from her actual life and started blaming him for them on the phone. He was doing the same to her, unloading all the pain he was in from the dead relationship. In the end, he slapped Jessie with one final tell-off before hanging up on her.
Of course, it was all a kind of “game” and Jessie seems pretty awesome, so she contacted him again later to make sure he was alright. He was fine, and had just hung up on her because he wanted to end things with his “girlfriend” on his own terms. He and Jessie parted ways after that, having both drawn some pretty valuable therapy from the experience.
Why Is This a Femdom Thing?
Because spite porn generally involves a woman having some form of power or control (as we saw in the two examples from the article), it’s really a new trend in the femdom kink. It may not be too surprising that this particular fetish is covering new ground, since it’s so immensely popular and absolutely huge online – especially on Twitter, as of late.
Any sexualized situation that creates a power imbalance in which women are on top can be thought of as femdom. It goes way, way beyond the “classic” dominatrix, in her black leather, fishnets, and stiletto heels. Femdom can also include cuckoldry, sissification of men, and even findom (financial domination, when a woman takes control of a man’s money). Often, more than one of these can be going on at the same time.
Femdom also isn’t strictly a heterosexual thing, as many women who are into it do have female submissives. The most well-known (and most popular) forms, however, feature a strong and dominant woman exercising power over a man. I want to focus on that flavor of femdom for a bit, because it’s interesting to look at the psychology of the men who seek out these kinds of relationships.
As we covered, femdom can be quite varied, but a common theme in much of it is humiliation of the submissive. This isn’t an accident. Very often, men who want to be dominated by women actually live strong, powerful lives themselves.
What you find is, often, the powerful CEO wants to be made to feel like a wimpy little bitch by a strong, hot woman. This is femdom.
They may be financially successful people who hold jobs of great authority, with many people under them constantly looking to them for direction. High-paid lawyers, wealthy business owners, and even politicians have been known to favor femdom relationships.
The reason for this is that having power all the time can get very tiresome. Worse than that, it’s stressful as hell and puts a guy under a lot of pressure. When you’re in that kind of position, these men will tell you, it’s nothing short of liberating to let go and surrender all that authority to someone else. If the “someone else” is a hot and domineering woman, and you can get sexual satisfaction from bowing to her, so much the better.
Again, most of these people tend to be successful and have some pretty deep pockets. In many cases, their money is the direct source of the power that’s wearying them so much. This is almost certainly why findom (briefly discussed before), which otherwise seems so strange, has become such a popular femdom fetish.
These guys are so sick of the burdens and responsibilities that come with having money, that they actually get sexually aroused and even gratified by straight-up giving it away to findom goddesses.
How To Get Your Spite Porn Fix
I’ll close by seeing if I can’t help out those of you who are seeking these kinds of experiences, but may be having trouble actually finding the right women to live them out with – a common problem. The good news is, it doesn’t have to be, because cam sites are all about making even obscure sexual fantasies come true; and as we’ve discussed, femdom is anything but obscure.
Of all the cam sites out there, MyFreeCams (MFC) is probably the best for seeking women into femdom. You can find female dominants for BDSM, cuckold fantasies, findom, and yes, most definitely spite porn. They’re all there, and by and large, they’re happy to play your preferred scenarios out with you.
Many of the internet’s most high-quality femdom goddess models are on MyFreeCams. They generally accept a wide range of custom video requests, including spite porn.
MFC’s major claim to fame over other cam sites is its focus on communications between webcam models and members. This one is all about keeping people in touch, and it does that with a wide variety of features geared towards messaging and interaction. It has a giant community chat room called “The Lounge,” which is a great place for people on the site to meet and talk to each other.
MFC Social uses a Twitter-like timeline for both members and cam girls to post; many of the girls use it to keep their fans in the loop on their upcoming events and other plans. And there’s also an on-site e-mail system, which really helps the models build relationships with their regulars by enabling longer, more in-depth convo than chats generally allow for.
It’s much easier to strike a bond with a model on MyFreeCams than pretty much any other cam site, due to its extensive community and communication features.
To find women on MFC who are into findom, spite porn, or any other flavor of femdom, you can use search tags like #femdom, #findom, #goddess, and so on. You’re going to get a lot of results, because like I said, this site is full of webcam models targeting that niche. Fortunately, the search feature includes filters that will allow you to narrow down your query.
You’re going to want to do this, anyway, because MFC is a fully international cam site, and it’s important that you be able to comfortably interact with your favorite girl. That becomes difficult when she comes from a non-English speaking country (assuming you’re in the US, the UK, or the like).
Fortunately, it’s pretty easy to find girls on MFC who live in your home country, cutting down on any communications problems. The country filter is easy to use and is located in the top bar on the MFC homepage.
This spite porn thing is definitely unique, but in the end, it fits pretty comfortably under the enormous femdom umbrella, and femdom is a lot of people’s cup of tea. I can’t say that I’m surprised that so many seem to draw therapeutic value from this kind of stuff — it’s not like it’s any stranger than getting over a breakup by binge watching all 8 seasons of OG Charmed, which I’ve personally done (yes, I was high).